Selina, That was beautifully put. I understand how that "line" can be tough to discern. My two teenage boys, adopted this year, sometime cringe (in a funny way) when they see silly pictures of themselves on my blog, but like you, I try to share real life so that it might inspire, educate and encourage someone else to take that plunge when the Lord nudges their hearts. God bless you all!Angie
Well put Selina. I have really enjoyed following your blog and seeing what it is actually like to adopt. We've considered it but just haven't felt like the door was open yet. I'll admit I thought you guys were crazy for adopting a teen, but I totally understand how God calls us to things that might seem crazy on the outside, and I knew if He had truly called you to it, then He would bless you through it. Thanks for sharing the good and the bad and helping to increase our awareness and burden for these little (and bigger) ones that need someone to reach out and love them.
I totally agree!
To that post, I say AMEN!
Wow, I'm really honoured that my comment led you to create a blog post! I would like to clarify a few things though as I am sure I do not write as eloquently as you. I didn't think for a minute that you were saying that Johanna owed you for "rescueing her" and I wasn't very clear of that. What I meant was that adopted children can often feel like they owe their adoptive parents if their early lives are presented in a way that makes their new lives seem so much better. Does that make any sense at all? So when talking about how awful it was for them in China (or wherever) one has to be really careful to not portray the adoptive family as the rescuers. I have two daughters adopted from China, one who suffered malnutrition, neglect and abuse during her time in the orphanage and although it's been really important to have those talks about how life was for her in China, I try really hard not to make it seem like she's going to be okay because now she has a mother who loves her, and a warm and safe home with enough to eat. Putting the two in the same conversation can result in indebtedness, I think. And from what I have read this issue for adopted children can be even more complicated when the adoptive family felt a calling to adopt and have a strong relationship with God because now the child also feels owing to the universe, the powers that be, and of course, God. I tell my daughters that God wants all children to be raised by their birth parents but when things go wrong for people and they are not able to raise their children then adoption is a man made solution in that adoptive parents get what they want/need (a child to love) and adopted children get what they want/need (a family to love and raise them). I try really hard not to make the loss of their birth family equated or connected to my joy at being my girls' mother. Does this make it clearer or have I just confused everyone more? Thank you so much for being open to discussing this Selina, I think it's an important conversation for adoptive parents to have. Leann
I welcome any and all comments as long as they are Christ-honoring. Please let me know what you think!