Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Today was the Day

It started out like any other day.


School. Attempting to keep 3 little ones busy and 3 older ones on task.

Lunch on the deck, enjoying the sunshine.

Then, while I stepped inside for a moment, apparently a food fight with Cheetos ensued.

I rebuked all the children involved (and yes, it was the oldest three) and told them to clean up.

I'm not exactly why, but Johanna got upset.

Perhaps it was because I told her to sweep the Cheetos off of the deck.

Perhaps it was because she felt something wasn't "fair".

Perhaps it was simply because she's a young lady who just went through a tremendous life change and sometimes she just has an attitude.

Quite frankly, I'm not sure WHAT went wrong. But the rest of the afternoon she sulked and pouted, and treated Eliana poorly. Brent even had to rebuke her for the first time---she was pouting through dinner.

I worked with her as best I could, balancing love/gentleness/snuggles with "Mommy expectations" of kindness to others, even when we're upset. I really wasn't sure I was getting anywhere. I did reassure her that I LOVE HER, even if she has a "bad temper" and no matter what she does or doesn't do. I prayed and asked God for wisdom to reach the heart of this precious girl.

Tonight, after church, she came up to me unexpectedly, hugged me, and whispered, "Sorry."

When we got into the car, she told me, "Mommy, Johanna sorry to Ellie" (she had apologized to Ellie as well!). We all praised her and loved on her.

Then, when Brent and I went into the girls' room to kiss them good-night, it happened.

Johanna said, "Daddy, sit down!" He looked at me. ?? I shrugged my shoulders.

He sat down.

She ran up to him, gave him a hug, KISSED HIS CHEEK, and said "I love you, Daddy!"

Yes, dear friends, today was the day.

The day our daughter hugged, kissed, and told her Daddy she loved him.

All for the first time.

And to think, she was only 2 days away from NEVER having a Daddy to love her


  1. Now does it get any better than that?! I REALLY don't think so!

  2. Oh my goodness!!! That is just wonderful! God is just so great! Now excuse me while I go find the tissues!!!

  3. Tears, beautiful. What a treasured day!

  4. I LOVE THIS!!
    I am two days away from home after adopting 2 older children.
    One, the day before her 14th birthday. I have loved reading your blog and to see some similarities. Thank you for blogging your experiences.
    So glad she got her forever family!
    Blessings to you!!
    Stacy Richmond

  5. These are such amazing moments, aren't they!

  6. God is good! I love hearing about the adjustment process. I'm thankful Johanna has her forever family. Just wanted to say, praying for you and the other "Z" families today.

  7. This is a wonderful post and brought tears to my eyes...

  8. That two day comment brought a lump to my throat.


  9. oh loving this post.
    i can so relate.
    my new girls are only 7 but definitely get an "off in space" attitude when rebuked for something I clearly see as, pick up the papers you left out on the table...
    not always but sometimes and i pray and pray. even if we have very bad hours of silence, I have always gotten a , "sorry, mommy".
    God's grace, really.
    you are doing a wonderful job! keep it up.
    reading every update and so respectful of your family.


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