Love your children the way God loves you.
“For God so loved the world that He GAVE…..”
“We love him because he first loved us….”
“Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us…..”
God loves you.
Those three simple words have changed the lives of
countless millions. You see, with God, there’s no “because”. God doesn’t love
us because we’ve earned it or because we deserve it. He just LOVES us! The
entire plan of redemption is built on God’s LOVE.
We can find true joy in motherhood, not only by viewing your children the way GOD views them, and embracing motherhood as your full-time ministry, but also by loving your children the way God loves you.
Let me give you my definition of LOVE, based on what the Lord has shown
me in my own life:
LOVE is the conscious choice of my will to act in the best interest of
someone else, regardless of whether they deserve it or not, and without any
thought of what I might gain in return.
Last year, we adopted a 14 year old orphan from China. Unlike giving
birth to a baby, loving an older child as your own may not come as “naturally”
to some. People asked us before and after her adoption if it was harder to love
her and the answer is honestly NO.
You see, true love isn’t based simply on
emotion. Emotions come and go. True love is based on commitment and a choice to
act in the best interest of someone else. It was very obviously in Johanna’s
best interest to be raised in a loving family, and we are so thankful that plenty
of positive emotions have followed our decision to adopt her, but ladies, it
isn’t about emotions! It’s about choosing to love, even when it’s really,
really hard at times.
Perhaps you’re blessed with a very stubborn little one.
Perhaps you have a teenager working through a rebellious time. Maybe you’re
struggling under the pressures of life and you feel ready to explode if one
more child tugs at your leg and says, “Mommy!”
Dear mothers, here’s where we can overcome and find true joy----CHOOSE to
love, even when you don’t "feel" it.
Do the next “right” thing, whatever it may
Meet their needs, even when your own feel insurmountable.
Dig down deep,
and love because it’s what God commands of us.
Do you want to know the best part of choosing to love, even when it’s hard?
It’s amazing really.
Listen carefully, or you might miss it.
WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO
LOVE, YOUR FEELINGS WILL START TO FOLLOW YOU!
Really, it’s true! This can be
applied to all areas of life, not just motherhood.
When you choose to love your
husband, meeting his needs whether he deserves it or not, with no thought of
what you might gain in return, you will start FEELING more love for him! When
you choose to love your (insert whoever you’re having problems with, your
friend, co-worker, sibling, in-laws, etc) meeting THEIR needs, whether they
deserve it or not, with no thought of what you might gain in return, you will
start FEELING more love for them.
God says to DO what’s right, not to FEEL what’s right.
Choose to love
your children with the same beautiful, sacrificial love God has shown to you
and you will find more joy in motherhood.
(Stay tuned for Part 5: Parent Your Children With Grace)